Remember! life is about choices,If you choose to be happy you will be. If you choose to be sad, you have made your choice to be sad. I say rejoice in all things, know that IT DID NOT COME TO STAY, IT CAME TO PASS... (Thanks) Prophetess Rosemary Abercrombie
Don't get discouraged by things that you have tried and failed in, only focus on what is still possible for you to do. A friend of mine (Rose Harper) sent me these wonderful words of encouragement for life, realizing mistakes and having the wisdom to know the difference to change. MUST READ!!!!
KNOW!
Just because "YOU" are close to someone "DOES NOT MEAN THAT THEY ARE CLOSE TO YOU".....I.E.... You may share your hearts desire with them...every thought,every dream...and then you notice...they don't reciprocate that....a lot of times they keep things from you....almost like they reside in a secret society of some sorts.
As I look and see that we are about to embark upon a new year 2008-and of course every church in the world is using that 08 will be the year for New Beginnings!!! And yes, even though that biblical numerology is true and many of us are transitioning into new settings, surroundings, and ministries-I want to share some wisdom with you- that as you walk into 2008 you can do so without the un-neccessary baggage that we normally carry over into the New Year.
1. KNOW WHO YOUR TRUE FRIENDS ARE- This May shock you, but your TRUE friends are probably not the individuals that you see and talk to everyday...huh...you'd be surprised...
2. KNOW WHO HAS A HIDDEN AGENDA- These are people that are basically just tolerating you to get to the certain end(i.e. you may have a particular platform or a relationship with a person and the only reason they want to get closer to you is to gain access to your platform and or infiltrate the relationship you have with a specific person.
3. KNOW WHO IS MANIPULATIVE- This generally occurs in leadership (but can happen in any relationship). The entire basis of your relationship is for them to get you to do and be for them, with no concern as to what your well being is -as long as you're doing what THEY want you to do to make their program work, then all is well. But... just try and say No....see what happens.....
4. KNOW WHO IS LOYAL TO YOU- In my opinion...Loyalty is everything. If you don't know that they have your back, and that they truly mean you good, then...do what you gotta do, because when the deal goes down...trust me...YOU WILL BE LEFT OUT THERE BY YOURSELF....
5. KNOW WHO YOU CAN TRUST- This one is a stickler for me- and it's self explanatory, IF YOU CAN'T TRUST THEM....THEN WHY EVEN WASTE YOUR ENERGY??? Thank God that he allowed you to see...and move on....
6. KNOW WHO IS USING YOU- Oh my god....this one should have been listed as number 1. There are so many that use you as a means to an end...you know, as long as you provide this service or as long as you keep me in your inner circle telling me things about someone I want to be close to but when you shut down the information the interactions stops...
7. KNOW YOUR WORTH- so many times times we belittle ourselves not going forth and branching out with all that God has placed within us, and are being taken serious advantage of....because we don't know our worth. Believe me..those that are taking advantage of you are WELL AWARE of your value!!! It's time for you to take notice.
8. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CONFIDENTIALITY" AND SECRECY"- There are times that we are given information that should most definitly be held in the uttermost confidence, but then there are things that when we are told "shh-it's a secret" or we are made to feel that if we say something we will be disowned. This is OUT OF ORDER AND NOT OF GOD!!! If what we are doing for God is pure, then there is absolutely nothing to be quiet about-I mean, what are we hiding????This is often used by those in leadership to just test the waters to see how far you will take this directive, in addition to placing you in a position to be manipulated (see 3).
Lastly, please, please, remember:
DO NOT MAKE ANYONE A PRIORITY THAT MAKES YOU AN AFTERTHOUGHT!!!!WHEN THEY NEED YOU...YOU ARE RIGHT THERE-BUT...WHEN YOU NEED THEM....WELL....
I CAN SEE CLEARLY NOW, THE RAIN IS GONE!!! I CAN SEE ALL THE OBSTACLES IN MY WAY!!! IT'S GONNA BE A BRIGHT, BRIGHT, 2008....
Remember the song back in the day "Hey Dj" by the group zhane. Yeap, I thought you would remember from whence you have come. Well, this is my friend Jean Baylor from that group, it is such a beautiful song. Everytime I watch this video, I realize how much God loves me. Check it out... Absolutely Beautiful Song!!!!!!!!
A little boy who'd been rude to his Mum started sneaking off upstairs. "Where are you going, young man?" she asked. "To my room to talk to God," he replied. "Isn't there something you want to tell me first?" she said. "Nope," he said, "You'll just get mad. God will forgive me and forget about it." Long after you think you've forgiven somebody you can still be harbouring hard feelings.
Here are some clues that you've still got work to do: you get angry thinking about what happened; you give the offender the cold shoulder; you rehearse the incident mentally and in conversation; you seize every opportunity to remind the offender of what they did. Refusing to forgive and forget is just another way of justifying an unforgiving attitude. The Bible says there are two things God won't share: (1) His glory (Isaiah 42:8); (2) His right to settle old scores. He said, "Vengeance is Mine; I will repay" (Romans 12:19). Don't take over His authority by trying to get even; take your hands off the situation and let Him work it out. When "people insulted Christ… He did not insult them in return… He let God… who judges rightly, take care of Him" (1 Peter 2:23 NCV).
A grudge shackles you to the offender, and you become the hostage! Dwelling on something your parents did, or on how an associate took credit for your work, or on what someone said about you, makes you, not them, miserable. You walk around in turmoil and they don't even know you're upset! Why give somebody that kind of control over your life? What's important is what happens in you, not to you. So forgive, forget, and move on!
Monday 03-31-2008 4:07pm CT
Check out this awesome video, it will bless your LIFE! Destiny Praise His Will, this song is going to bless sooooo many people. Go on get your breakthrough!
Monday 06-23-2008 6:03pm CT
Watch Marvin Sapp Never would have made it
Thursday 04-17-2008 2:39pm CT
I TRIED TO HOLD IT IN......
I had a conversation with a male co-worker about women being bitter, I hate having these conversations with brothers because I know what I am going to hear...
"SISTERS ARE TOO ANGRY, STUBBORN, MAD AT THE WORLD, NON TRUSTING, AND MOST IMPORTANT! DAMAGED....
God knows I get tired of this same comment coming from brothers, that now I have to say it. Women are nurturing, when we love we give it our all, without having a second thought especially if we trust this person. We are very supportive(some) and really only desire to be appreciated.
BROTHERS.... everytime you tell a lie! women begin not to trust you, everytime you show a lack of appreciation, women slowly begin to become stubborn and sometimes bitter.
Everytime you step outside of the home( CHEAT) she becomes angry, especially if she is raising your children & feels as though she has given up her dream in order to allow you to pursue yours. Brothers, Men of God... she went through a whole lot to get to this place, had you not lied, cheated, or had lack of appreciation, only to make her to feel like a doormat, she would not be this women that you call... Angry & DAMAGED GOODS Take RESPONSIBILITY
TO MY BEAUTIFUL SISTAS...
Never, EVER allow someone to dictate your future. I know, he promises that he never kept. Now, you have made changes in your life to be of help to him, you have now vowed to never help another person again!
Don't change who God has purposed you to be because of a lie... " Guard your heart" give yourself time to heal, get back up, dry your tears and put the focus back on what is important! This is not a time to give up on yourself, fix yourself up, STOP! walking around with your wig tilted to the side.
Go on a spiritual journey, find out why YOU allowed this kind of person and treatment in your life.
DO NOT START DATING SOMEONE RIGHT AWAY.
There is a possibility you are going to make the same mistake again, learn the lesson, get back in line with God, make him your main focus, allow yourself to heal, find out who you are???? get your love for yourself back, go back to school, do something you simply love to do.
In other words... get yourself together and stop pointing the finger, LET GOD CHOOSE...
Be honest with yourself, Move on... once you stop pointing fingers, you are finally in a place to accept responsibility for your part. Again! learn the lesson and MOVE ON! allow god to nestle in your heart and keep you through this transition, become the true women of God that you are destined to be, allow God to keep you and your beautiful spirit, so that you will not harden your heart. He was not for you, God has a wonderful man designed just for you. Allow God to keep your mind, body, FLESH... under submission,until God sends you that Man Of God.
© 2008